Time of birth

Since I am always forgetting what time my kids were born, I am now recording it here!

Indira - 31st August 2007 at 9:07am (morning)
Ishaani - 30th April 2010 at 10:50pm (night)
Ira - 2nd August 2013 at 12:20pm (afternoon)

Ishaani baby steps - 1

Ishaani baby steps - 2

Depressed......

Feeling very low........and upset.....and depressed.................everything in one :(
First point of depression - my weight.........have become so graossly overweight............around 95kgs now. Its very very depressing.......and worse still....I am not doing anything to rectify it :( I know I need to start exercising.....need to cut down on high calorie foods.....but I am not able to do it. My day starts with my 9 month old waking me up around 6-7am. So the morning exercise time is ruled out. The whole day is spent in either cooking for feeding my two devils. Where does one take the time out???? Am I being too harsh on myself.........i don't know. And when I see pics of gorgeous slim mothers...........I really wonder how do they do that. And I go the extent of asking God why he has been unfair to me in this section - why has he made me fat!
Currently I have only 3-4 dresses which fit me fine.......and it depresses me further to see none of my earlier clothes fit me :(

In continuation to my post dated Aug 19, 2008 - I am all ready to move again!!!!

Another 2.5 years later - and I would be packing my bags to move over to Hyderabad AGAIN :))) My life suddenly has become so predictable!! Why can't I spend more than 2-3 years in one place???

Well, this time it is Ramji getting a new job in a new company. And am I glad :))))

This was soooo long due! I felt that Ramji was being taken for granted in his present company - a lot of hard work but hardly any rewards to justify it! So finally he made the leap and I would like to believe that it was for the best :)

I am back!

My last post dates back more than a year................man, have I been busy this year!! But now I am back on a self taken vacation for 9 months and with all the time in the world for at least the next couple of months. I am into my second pregnancy and expecting the lil one in early May. Peetu is close to 2.5 years now and isn't an handful as she used to be. I can now afford to let my hair loose and relax for some time while my dear parents enjoy their grand daughter's ever growing dramatics.
Last year saw me been occupied with a new job and taking care of my family and home. it looked hectic, but wasn't as hectic as I had expected. Of course, all thanks to the help and co-operation from my dear husband. It was a fun time filled with a lot of emotions and surprises as well. My new job taught me one good thing - I don't think I want to ever work again! Big companies have big ideologies, but it stops at that. The upper middle management is filled with some real parasites that do not let these ideologies translate into action to the lowest rung of the hierarchy. I found myself suffocating in this environment and felt like a complete jerk stuck in the wrong place. For now, I have taken a break, hopefully when I get back, I would get a chance to work under a more able leadership!

I would not call myself a very social person. I would never go out of my way to be friendly with strangers and try to strike up a conversation. Its just that I am too lazy to make that effort. But if anyone else makes that effort and gets friendly with me, then I am quite a likeable person :)

Like many other facets of my life have changed, this attitude too has undergone a change since I have entered the beautiful phase of motherhood. Now what is the connection between actively social and being a mother?? Well, a huge one! I have just come to realise what a responsibility it is to be a parent in choosing your child's first friends.

The child starts building friendships only with kids that are around them. And this is possible only when the parent (its mostly always the mother) has a good circle of new moms around as well. Imagine living isolated with no kids around - whom will your kid play with? This is where your socialising skills come to play. You need to get out of your cocoon and look around your neighbourhood. You need to go ahead and socialise with other moms. It acts as a great catalyst to your kid's social development and you too get a good forum to share 'motherhood' experiences!

I have recently moved to beautiful residential complex in Pune, which has a lot of new moms like me. And I have finally moved my lazy self out of my nest and begun taking my kid to the colony park every evening. This place is a great meeting joint for us mothers. In a short time, we have built some good relationships and I now know some of the older kids too! If you had asked me some years back about socialising with kids and their moms, I would have been the least interested. But my perspective has now changed a great deal. Its actually so nice to see your kid playing with kids her age, holding hands with them and exploring new things. Its amazing how she has learnt to let go of me (only for that short play time) and mix up with her 'friends'.

All this struck me when one of the older girls come home last night to call P2 (my daugther's nickname) to her birthday party. My daughter's first invite for a party! Feeling very kiddish, I was thrilled to be invited! I offered her a chocolate and she left - only to come back after a few moments, with her entire group of friends! All of them wanted chocolates! I invited them in and treated them to some Hershey's. It was such a wonderful feeling to see P2 all excited at having kids play with her at home. She proudly showed off her toys and let all of them pay with them as well!

Last night made me realise how important it is to know your neighbours - all for your kid's sake :) They need to feel accepted by the other kids. And the mother has a very important role to play in this. I feel if the mom is friendly with the other kids and their moms, your kid automatically gets accepted as well. Building blocks in some everlasting friendships for your kid :)

Life has been a bit chaotic for the past one month. Hubby got transferred to Pune. So the big decision of moving to a new city...quitting my present job...relocating our whole stuff...getting my baby back to stay with us. I love change.....hence this whole concept of relocating does not scare me at all. On the other hand, I am really excited about all this! I love moving to a new place, re-doing my house, exploring a new city. Maybe that is one of the reasons I have never been in one place for more than a couple of years (except in Goa where I grew up). Goa would forever remain my favourite place, but the adventurous streak in me made me move out of Goa as well.

My first move was to Bangalore, a safe move as I was staying my brothers itself. But the thought of a new city was exciting enough for me. After a couple of years in Bangalore, Mumbai started looking real attractive to me.....I wanted to experience the fast life there, be a part of the huge dream city, experience this city. So packed my bags and moved over to Mumbai, this time there was no family to 'shelter' me. But I was there with my closest friends, and it was a dream come true for me. Though I got to spend only 6 months in Mumbai, they have been some of the most memorable days of my life. Total freedom, something I had tasted for the first time. A beautiful city to explore and my best buddies to share all this with me! What more could I have asked for!

But this good time had to end as well, and it was time for me to make a tough decision of going back home to stay with my parents in Vizag. Trust me, it wasn't an easy decision at all. I was compromising on my freedom and my job. But I felt I needed to spend some time with my parents before they finally decide to push me off after marriage. So Vizag it was! My new nest for the next two years.

Vizag was nothing I had expected it to be. The first month was chilled out.....just relaxing at home, doing all kinds of things to loose all the excess weight I had gained with my 'happy life' in Mumbai. But staying at home is not my cuppa of tea. So went to the nearest recruitment consultancy and put in my CV, and got myself a job at HSBC a week after that. This job had nothing to do with my work exp nor my degree. I was to be a call centre executive here. But I had no complaints...I was just happy to be working again! HSBC had turned out to be my best experiences in a corporate life till date. I have made some of the best friendships there, some of the best moments....like participating in a dance competition (imagine me dancing on stage!!), being able to help customers manage their money (though I am bad at managing mine!), becoming a process trainer (I always loved to teach!), being able to train one of the finest trainees......I loved every moment I had spent in that HSBC campus. But change is the only thing that is constant! So that next stage of my life had to begin......suddenly out of the blue my now brother-in-law meets up with my father to carry out God's will that I should be bound to Ramji for life :)

So be it! Got married in a real 'confusing' ceremony and finally landed in the land of Nawabs - Hyderabad! A new life....with a not so new person...Hyderabad promised to be quite exciting! And believe me, it is :) Another new job, this time, back into MR, to what I was doing in Bangalore and Mumbai. Job was smooth, no crazy hours. Thinking of my stay here.....Cafe Coffee Day is well embossed in my memories! Have spent so many evenings with Ramji in CCD, drinking my usual Almond Frappe and he his Cold Sparkle.....life was really good here. Lots of new friends, most of them were Ramji's friends though. Got my first bike, my first car....my first kid :)))

And as usual, since its been a lovely 2 years, it's time to pack up and moveeeee..........Pune, here I come!